Keep Things Fun

Something I've noticed with the long distance relationship thing is that being away from your significant other from a long period of time will make you super depressed. And that just sucks. Why sit around being depressed about it when you can come up with ways to make the time go by easier? And I'm not just saying keep yourself busy or distracted, although it does help. What I mean is keeping your relationship interesting and fun while you're away.
In my case, I've learned that not seeing someone every day means that it's easier to surprise them. My boyfriend cut his hair recently for example (ha...not a pleasant surprise, I must admit). But because of this, he and I have gotten on a sort of "kick" just surprising each other with random things. For example, I bought him something the other day but wouldn't tell him what it was or even show him until last night. That kept him guessing, and it was a lot of fun seeing how close he was to being right or wrong. Obviously don't drag it out to the point where it's not worth the surprise anymore...but dragging it out just enough makes it a lot of fun.

Another thing I've noticed is that being away from someone makes you rely more on your spoken/textual interactions. Sometimes its difficult to come up with something to talk about, even though we want to talk to each other. Usually to solve this problem I find stuff to converse about through what I've been doing or what I've been reading. If I read a tidbit of information somewhere or find something funny that I think he'd like, that's usually a good way to start a conversation. Lately I've been sharing stuff with him from tumblr blogs like the "did you know" blog. It certainly makes for interesting conversation!
It might seem silly, but I think a lot of people have trouble coming up with conversation starters sometimes...so hopefully some of my tips help people as much as they have been helping me! :)


-Julia